Being in a relationship is not always simple or easy. All relationships have challenges and seeking outside help from psychotherapists in London offering couples therapy at any time during a challenging period in the relationship, or even in anticipation of a challenge, can help the relationship to weather the storm and become stronger.
Unfortunately, a large number of couples fail to seek any professional help when they start to run into difficulties. While it is very normal and helpful to try to work through issues on your own, when this proves futile working with psychotherapists in London can offer a true solution that will build your competency in working through issues in the future.
For most couples, problems and difficulties begin to emerge around specific stressors or changes within the dynamics of the relationship. These can be internal, or within the couple, or they can be external, or controlled by forces outside of the couple. Regardless of where the pressure or stress is from, a psychotherapist can work with a couple to determine how they can address the issue together and with similar, mutually developed goals in mind.
To understand how psychotherapists in London can be of assistance, let’s consider a few different scenarios where couples may have challenges that begin to threaten the stability of the relationship. While these may not occur in every relationship, they are very common and can be the earliest signs of potential risks for a breakup or divorce.
Changes in Careers
For couples where both are professionals and have careers, making changes in one or both jobs can be a very real challenge. This is particularly true if this involves a move, a change in schedule, or perhaps one partner feeling as if the other partner is more successful, smarter, more qualified or any range of other issues.
In some cases, the change in one person’s career may necessitate the other person relocating, giving up a job, or otherwise impacting their ability to pursue their career goals. When these very divergent decisions have to be made talking with psychotherapists in London can be important to evaluate the options and understand the best possible choice.
When working with a top couple’s therapist you will not be told what to do, rather the professional will provide support in having the conversations, learning ways to talk to each other, and reality checking your options and possible choices. Ultimately with effective communication and understanding of each other’s needs, positions, and goals, it will be possible to develop a plan that will be mutually agreeable for you both.
Changes in the Family
Changes in the family, such as moving an elderly parent or family member into the home or perhaps an unplanned pregnancy can be a very real source of conflict for couples. In cases where there is no ability to communication or to talk through options these types of issues can result in damaging rifts in the relationship that can have very long term consequences.
In yet other situations one of the partners may have made a decision without consulting the other, or in some cases one partner simply sees him or herself as the decision maker in the family.
In many situations these unplanned or one-sided changes in the family lead to feelings of not being important, valued or trusted by the other partner. This creates both an emotional distance as well as distrust and feelings of isolation and inability to communicate, talk and exchange thoughts, ideas, and emotions.
The different therapeutic options offered by psychotherapists in London can help the couple to overcome this type of disparity in the relationship. One partner may need to develop skills to be more compassionate or less controlling while the other may need to learn to be more assertive in communicating his or her needs.
For many people, real issues have already occurred in the relationship by the time they seek the counsel of psychotherapists in London. This may include an affair, a lack of trust and a growing problem with communicating even over the simple things. For these couples, therapy can restore the relationship and provide a way to reconnect with each other in ways that are mutually agreeable and beneficial.